I am not yet 25. I will be 25 soon. I don’t foresee marriage on the table by the time I’m 25. I’m not a seer, I just prefer to get married later than 25, if I get married before 25 it will be a good thing. If I get married after 25 or way after 25 it should still be a good thing.
Now, when I read the article about why one must not marry a woman who is 25 years or older I laughed. I laughed because I thought the author was really funny and had a ‘sweetish’ imagination. In my laughter I was offended, offended because I am a woman. Offended because of the way this author chose to depict a woman’s worth. But then, it was just an opinion-like armpits we all have them-yet some stink.
His opinion ignited a heated debate in the NUST library basement with most guys pretending to agree with him, with a few girls getting emotional and probably in the process worrying about whether they are now are cold left overs.
It’s puzzling how a guy above 25 too is free from being a used car, expired milk and so forth and so on. It’s quite disturbing that his assertions should apply only to women and not to men.
Anyway, the whole concept of used goods is alien to me. I need someone who can properly break it down to me by making it a wholly female phenomenon. I need someone who can define ‘used goods’ without their definition being applicable to our ever so adorable male counterparts.
While they do that, may all the sisters above 25 and unmarried know that- the reasons that have kept you from being married are your own. Whether you badly wanted the marriage, or you have been broken hearted or you are pursuing other interests outside marriage-own it.
May you have the heart to know that marriage is indeed a beautiful thing. (I really think so).
But then, there are many other good things, so many of them.
“I realized I could never devote myself, as a faithful husband, to a woman who wasted the prettiest years of her life before she met me.”
I realize that if a man cannot devote, he simply chooses not to. Whether he has the ideas that you ‘wasted’ your ‘prettiest’ years or he thinks you put them into good use. If he is not faithful, he simply is not-finish and clara!
If a man will not look at you twice because you are above 25, then he probably was never going to give you any attention at 19.
I am probably superstitious, but I believe if what will be, will be. If marriage is meant for you (and the other way round), you will be married, to the one person who loves you and knows the precious years of your life are not the ones behind but ahead of you.
Whatever the product this guy was talking about, it can be valued at whatever price you want. Whatever prime years of beauty he meant-they can be what you want and can be seen differently by different people.
Let no one set the benchmark for the right time to get married. Let nobody pressure you.
As females delay marriage longer, I believe they become wiser in the choices they make. They become accessible to the people worth their time, space and money too.
Just in a few words